the most commonly used two word verbs

Verb	Meaning	Example
call on	ask to recite in class يطلب من / يسأل	The teacher called on students in the back row.
call on (2)	visit يزور	The old minister continued to call on his sick parishioners.
get over	recover from sickness or disappointment يشفى من مرض او من خيبة امل	I got over the flu, but I don't know if I'll ever get over my broken heart.
go over	review يراجع	The students went over the material before the exam. They should have gone over it twice.
go through	use up;  consume	They country went through most of its coal reserves in one year. Did he go through all his money already?
look after	take care of	My mother promised to look after my dog while I was gone.
look into	investigate	The police will look into the possibilities of embezzlement.
run across	find by chance	I ran across my old roommate at the college reunion.
run into	meet	Carlos ran into his English professor in the hallway.
take after	resemble	My second son seems to take after his mother.
wait on	serve	It seemed strange to see my old boss wait on tables.

Three-Word Phrasal Verbs (Transitive) With the following phrasal verbs, you will find three parts: "My brother dropped out of school before he could graduate."
Verb	Meaning	Example
break in on	interrupt (a conversation)	I was talking to Mom on the phone when the operator broke in on our call.
catch up with	keep abreast	After our month-long trip, it was time to catch up with the neighbors and the news around town.
check up on	examine, investigate	The boys promised to check up on the condition of the summer house from time to time.
come up with	to contribute (suggestion, money)	After years of giving nothing, the old parishioner was able to come up with a thousand-dollar donation.
cut down on	curtail (expenses)	We tried to cut down on the money we were spending on entertainment.
drop out of	leave school	I hope none of my students drop out of school this semester.
get along with	have a good relationship with	I found it very hard to get along with my brother when we were young.
get away with	escape blame	Janik cheated on the exam and then tried to get away with it.
get rid of	eliminate	The citizens tried to get rid of their corrupt mayor in the recent election.
get through with	finish	When will you ever get through with that program?
keep up with	maintain pace with	It's hard to keep up with the Joneses when you lose your job!
look forward to	anticipate with pleasure	I always look forward to the beginning of a new semester.
look down on	despise	It's typical of a jingoistic country that the citizens look down on their geographical neighbors.
look in on	visit (somebody)	We were going to look in on my brother-in-law, but he wasn't home.
look out for	be careful, anticipate	Good instructors will look out for early signs of failure in their students
look up to	respect	First-graders really look up to their teachers.
make sure of	verify	Make sure of the student's identity before you let him into the classroom.
put up with	tolerate	The teacher had to put up with a great deal of nonsense from the new students.
run out of	exhaust supply	The runners ran out of energy before the end of the race.
take care of	be responsible for	My oldest sister took care of us younger children after Mom died.
talk back to	answer impolitely	The star player talked back to the coach and was thrown off the team.
think back on	recall	I often think back on my childhood with great pleasure.
walk out on	abandon	Her husband walked out on her and their three children.

Intransitive Phrasal Verbs The following phrasal verbs are not followed by an object: "Once you leave home, you can never really go back again."
Verb	Meaning	Example
break down	stop functioning	That old Jeep had a tendency to break down just when I needed it the most.
catch on	become popular	Popular songs seem to catch on in California first and then spread eastward.
come back	return to a place	Father promised that we would never come back to this horrible place.
come in	enter	They tried to come in through the back door, but it was locked.
come to	regain consciousness	He was hit on the head very hard, but after several minutes, he started to come to again.
come over	to visit	The children promised to come over, but they never do.
drop by	visit without appointment	We used to just drop by, but they were never home, so we stopped doing that.
eat out	dine in a restaurant	When we visited Paris, we loved eating out in the sidewalk cafes.
get by	survive	Uncle Heine didn't have much money, but he always seemed to get by without borrowing money from relatives.
get up	arise	Grandmother tried to get up, but the couch was too low, and she couldn't make it on her own.
go back	return to a place	It's hard to imagine that we will ever go back to Lithuania.
go on	continue	He would finish one Dickens novel and then just go on to the next.
go on (2)	happen	The cops heard all the noise and stopped to see what was going on.
grow up	get older	Charles grew up to be a lot like his father.
keep away	remain at a distance	The judge warned the stalker to keep away from his victim's home.
keep on (with gerund)	continue with the same	He tried to keep on singing long after his voice was ruined.
pass out	lose consciousness, faint	He had drunk too much; he passed out on the sidewalk outside the bar.
show off	demonstrate haughtily	Whenever he sat down at the piano, we knew he was going to show off.
show up	arrive	Day after day, Efrain showed up for class twenty minutes late.
wake up	arouse from sleep	I woke up when the rooster crowed.

the most commonly used two word verbs

Verb	Meaning	Example
blow up	explode يفجر / ينسف	The terrorists tried to blow up the railroad station.
bring up	mention a topic     يصرح بحديث	My mother brought up that little matter of my prison record again.
bring up	raise children يتبنى طفل	It isn't easy to bring up children nowadays.
call off	cancel يلغي	They called off this afternoon's meeting
do over	repeat a job يعيد عمل شئ	Do this homework over.
fill out	complete a form يملأ استمارة	Fill out this application form and mail it in.
fill up	fill to capacity يملأ حتى النهاية	She filled up the grocery cart with free food.
find out	discover  يكتشف	My sister found out that her husband had been planning a surprise party for her.
give away	give something to  someone else for free يعطي بالمجان	The filling station was giving away free gas.
give back	return an object يعيد / يرجع	My brother borrowed my car. I have a feeling he's not about to give it back.
hand in	submit something (assignment) يسلم الواجب او المهمة	The students handed in their papers and left the room.
hang up	put something on hook or receiver تينهي محادثة تليفونية	She hung up the phone before she hung up her clothes.
hold up	delay يؤخر / يؤجل	I hate to hold up the meeting, but I have to go to the bathroom.
hold up (2)	rob يسطو	Three masked gunmen held up the Security Bank this afternoon.
leave out	omit يحذف / يمحو	You left out the part about the police chase down Asylum Avenue.
look over	examine, check يفحص باهتمام	The lawyers looked over the papers carefully before questioning the witness. (They looked them over carefully.)
look up	search in a list يبحث عن كلمة او معلومة	You've misspelled this word again. You'd better look it up.
make up	invent a story or lie يكذب / يلفق قصة	She knew she was in trouble, so she made up a story about going to the movies with her friends.
make out	hear, understand يسمع / يستوعب	He was so far away, we really couldn't make out what he was saying.
pick out	choose يختار	There were three men in the line-up. She picked out the guy she thought had stolen her purse.
pick up	lift something off something else يزيل / يخلع	The crane picked up the entire house. (Watch them pick it up.)
point out	call attention to يصب الاهتمام على	As we drove through Paris, Francoise pointed out the major historical sites.
put away	save or store يخزن / يحفظ	We put away money for our retirement. She put away the cereal boxes.
put off	postpone يؤجل	We asked the boss to put off the meeting until tomorrow. (Please put it off for another day.)
put on	put clothing on the body يرتدي	I put on a sweater and a jacket. (I put them on quickly.)
put out	extinguish يطفئ حريق	The firefighters put out the house fire before it could spread. (They put it out quickly.)
read over	peruse يتصفح	I read over the homework, but couldn't make any sense of it.
set up	to arrange, begin يبدأ / يشرع ف	My wife set up the living room exactly the way she wanted it. She set it up.
take down	make a written note  يدون كملحوظة	These are your instructions. Write them down before you forget.
take off	remove clothing يخلع ملابسه	It was so hot that I had to take off my shirt.
talk over	discuss يناقش	We have serious problems here. Let's talk them over like adults.
throw away	discard  يبدد / يضيع / يهمل / يرمي	That's a lot of money! Don't just throw it away.
try on	put clothing on to see if it fits يقيس ملابس	She tried on fifteen dresses before she found one she liked.
try out	test يختبر قبل الشراء	I tried out four cars before I could find one that pleased me.
turn down	lower volume  يخفض الصوت	Your radio is driving me crazy! Please turn it down.
turn down (2)	reject يتم رفضه	He applied for a promotion twice this year, but he was turned down both times.
turn up	raise the volume يرفع الصوت	Grandpa couldn't hear, so he turned up his hearing aid.
turn off	switch off electricity يطفئ الكهرباء	We turned off the lights before anyone could see us.
turn off (2)	repulse يخيب امل / يصد	It was a disgusting movie. It really turned me off.
turn on	switch on the electricity يدير / ينير	Turn on the CD player so we can dance.
use up	exhaust, use completely يستهلك	The gang members used up all the money and went out to rob some more banks.

How to Make your Husband Happy

To help strengthening the Muslim families and spread the teachings of Islam in building families, the Muslim Students' Association at the University of Alberta prepared a extremely summarized translation for two books. The books are Arabic by Sheikh Mohammad Abdelhaleem Hamed.  An Egyptian scholar, who graduated from the Islamic University of AlMadinah Al-Munawwarah in Saudi Arabia. The two books are:1- How to make your wife happy 2- How to make your husband happy These books exceed the traditional presentation of stating rights and duties to the 'Adab (good manners) and extend into application of these rights in daily life. The following summary highlights mainly the responsibilities or examples of what could or should be done. Every single item mentioned by the author is supported by evidences from Qur'an, Sunnah or the actions of the companions, but evidences are omitted in this translation. The following is the translation of the SECOND book. This translation is copyrighted to MSA at University of Alberta. Feel free to repost it or reprint it by all means, provided that you do not make any changes, additions, or omissions without permission.

1. Beautiful Reception. After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you, begin with a good greeting
• Meet him with a cheerful face.
• Beautify and perfume yourself
• Start with good news and delay any bad news until he has rested
• Receive him with loving and yearning sentences
• Make hard efforts for excellence of the food & having it ready on time.
2. Beautify and Soften the Voice

• For your  husband only, it shouldn't be used in front of non-mahram men (men who can marry you if you were unmarried)
3. Smelling Good and Physical Beautification
• Taking good care of your body and fitness
• Put on nice and attractive clothes and perfumes
• Bath regularly and, after the monthly period, remove any blood traces or bad smells
• Avoid that your husband observes you in dirty clothes or rough shape
• Avoid prohibited types of ornamentation, e.g. tatoo
• Use the types of perfumes, colors, and clothes that the husband likes
• Change hair style, perfumes, etc. from time to time
• However with these things you should avoid excessiveness and, of course, only act as such in front of mahrem men and women.
4. Satisfaction With What Allah (SWT) Has Allotted

• You shouldn't be depressed because your husband is poor or works in a simple job.
• You should look at poor, sick, and handicapped people and remember Allah (SWT) for all that was given to you
• You should remember that real wealth lays in Iman and piety.
5. Indifference to Worldly Things
• You should not consider this world as your hope and interest
• You should not ask your husband for many unnecessary things
• Asceticism does not mean not to enjoy what is good and permissible (Halal), but it means that one should look forward to the hereafter and utilize whatever Allah SWT gave them to achieve paradise (Jannah).
• Encourage your husband to reduce expenses and save some money in order to give charity and feed poor and needy people.
6. Appreciation
• By the saying of the prophet, the majority of people in hell were women because they were ungrateful and deny the good done to them.
• The result of being grateful is that your husband will love you more and will do his best to please you in more ways
• The result of being ungrateful is that your husband will be dissappointed and will start asking himself: Why should I do good to her, if she never appreciates?
7. Devotion and Loyalty

• In particular in times of calamities in your husband's body or business, e.g. an accident or a bankruptcy
• Supporting him through your own work, money, and properties if needed.
8. Compliance to Him
• In all what he commands you, unless it is prohibited (Haram).
• In Islam, the husband is the leader of the family, and the wife is his support and consultant
9. Pleasing Him If He Is Angry
• First off, try to avoid what will guarantee his anger.
• But if it happens that you can't, then try to appease him as follows:
1- If you mistaken, then apologize 2- If he mistaken then:
# Keep still instead of arguing or # Yield you were right or # Wait until he is no longer angry and discuss the matter peacefully with him.
3- If he was angry because of external reasons then:
# Keeping silent untill his anger goes # Find execuses for him, e.g. tired, problems at work, some one insulted him # Do not ask many questions and insist on knowing what happened, e.g.
1) You should tell me what happened? 2) I must know what made you so angry. 3) You are hidding something, and I have the right to know
10. Guardianship While He is Absent
• Protecting yourself from any prohibited relations
• Keep the secrets of the family, particularly intercourse and things that the husbands don't like other people to know
• Take care of the house and children
• Take care of his money and properties
• Do not go out of your house without his permission and put on full hijab
• Refuse people whom he does not like to come over
• Do not allow any non-mahram man to be alone with you in any place
• Be good with his parents and relatives in his absence
11. Showing Respect for his Family and Friends
• You should welcome his guests and try to please them, especially his  parents
• You should avoid problems as much as you can with his relatives
• You should avoid putting him is a position where he had to choose between his mother and his wife
• Show good hospitality for his guests by arranging a nice place for them to sit in, perfection of food, welcoming their wives, etc.

• Encourage him to visit his relatives and invite them to your home.
• Phone his parents and sisters, send letters to them, buy gifts for them, support them in calamities, etc.
12. Admirable Jealousy
• Jealousy is a sign for wife's love for her husband but it should be kept within the limits of Islam, e.g. not insulating or backbiting others, disrespecting them, etc.
• You should not follow or create unfounded doubts.
13. Patience and Emotional Support
• Be patient when you face poverty and strained circumstances.
• When you face calamities and disasters that may  happen to you, your husband, your children, relatives or properties, e.g. diseases, accidents, death, etc.
• When facing hardships in Da'wah (imprisonment, getting fired, arrested, etc.), be patient and encourage him to keep on the path of Allah and remind him of paradise.
• When he mistreats you, counteract his ill-treatment by good treatment
14. Support in Obedience to Allah, Da'wah and Jihad

• Cooperate with your husband and remind him of different obligatory and voluntary worships.* Encourage him to pray at night.
• Listen and reciting the Qur'an individually and with your husband.
• Listen to Islamic tapes and songs individually and with your husband.
• Remember Allah SWT much, particularly after Fajr and before Maghrib.
• Share in arranging Da'wah activities for women and children.
• Learn Islamic rules (ahkam) and good manners ('adab) for women.
• Support your husband's activities by encouraging him, offering wise opinions, soothing his pains, etc.
• Yielding some of your rights and a part of your time with your husband for Da'wah.
• Encourage him to go for Jihad when needed and remind him that you and children will be in the preservation of Allah SWT.
15. Good Housekeeping
• Keep it clean, decorated and well arranged.
• Change house arrangements from time to time to avoid boredom.

• Perfect of food and prepare healthy foods.
• Learn all the necessary skills for managing the house, e.g. sewing.
• Learn how to raise children properly and in an Islamic way.
16. Preservation of Finances and the Family
• Do not spend from his money, even for charity without his permission unless you are sure that he agrees on this.
• Protect his house, car, etc. while he is absent.
• Keep the children in good shape, clean clothes, etc. Take care of their nutrition, health, education, manners, etc. Teach them Islam and tell them the stories of the Prophets and companions.
Finally, please make Du'a for the writer; Sheikh Mohammad Abdelhaleem Hamed, for the translator brother Abu Talhah and for reviewer Br. Adam Qurashi. Remember this is not a perfect translation so forgive us our faults and correct our errors.

how to make your wife happy?

Do you know a secret of marital happiness and well-being? It is very simple: the main thing - a happy wife, and then she will take care of everything else. Well,  how to make her happy? All this is so difficult as it might seem at first glance.
Marital happiness is often compared with honey cells built by two bees, and the more they work, the sweeter honey is inside. Many people ask why they are deprived of happiness, harmonious family relations and how to get them back? There is no doubt that happiness of family first of all depends on a couple itself.
The main condition - understanding between partners. They should be united by love, but not that frivolous love, which erupts and suddenly extinguish, but the one that links spiritual harmony and gentle noble sentiments. Well, how to make a wife happy?
1. You both should have common views on life.
2. Try to help your wife at home.

3. Try not to pay attention to some shortcomings of your wife, and always remember that her dignity and noble qualities will hide minor shortcomings. If you do not like one quality in her, then you will be pleased with another one.
4. Be gentle and tender towards your wife, have fun with her, caress her.
5. Listen to criticism in your address from your wife with patience and magnanimity.
6. Be kind to your wife and children. The best of you - those who treat their families the best way.
7. If you are good to members of your family, they will also treat you kindly, filling your life with joy.
8. Do not save money on your wife or children, but spend money only for good. All your expenses for family will be rewarded. Prophet Muhammad said: “Best money - those that are spent on a family.” Do not say your wife you maintain her. This is your responsibility. If you reproach wife with this, you lose a reward for this good act.
9. Never humiliate your wife, because it leaves a trace in her heart for a long. The most dangerous humiliations - those that your wife can forgive on words, but will never forgive in heart - insults, when you are angry, curse of her parents, accusations of infidelity, etc.
10. If you treat your wife well, she will reciprocate. Let her feel you appreciate her happiness most of all, care of her health and is ready to sacrifice much to cure her during her illness.
11. Remember that your wife always wants to stay abreast of what is happening with you, so talk to her often. Returning home, try not to be doomed, grim, silent. All this can cause fear and suspicions in your wife.
12. Do not wait your wife would be interested in your professional interests. Therefore, if you are, for example, a professor of astronomy, do not hope your wife will be worried about state of stars and planets.

13. Be direct and honest, and then your wife will treat you the same way. Do not leave secrets - it can lead to questioning in each other.
14. Beware to cause your wife’s sense of jealousy specially or by accidentally said words, that you are offered to marry a second wife. Do not show your delight with other woman. All this could wound your wife’s heart deeply, make her worrying and doubting in you, which, in its turn, will affect her health, as well as respect for you.

15. Do not remind your wife about her physical shortcomings or mistakes, especially in front of strangers. Do not reproach her.
16. Watch your behavior and try to transform, educate yourself, because not only your wife is obliged to do so. Do not keep your old bad habits. Avoid anything that could cause anger in your wife, even if it’s just a joke.
17. Try to adopt positive qualities of your wife.

18. Be always calm and never go mad, because anger - a source of hatred among people. If you offended your wife, apologize immediately. Do not go to bed being angry with your wife, while she is offended and crying. Try to understand why you were angry - it is something small, not worth your wife’s tears.
19. Allow your wife feeling confidence. Do not make her your shadow, which should follow you, forgiving all your whims. Instead, encourage her to have her own views on life. Consult with her in all cases. Listen to her, if you see she is right, and tell her about it. If you do not agree with her, then try to convince her discreetly and politely.
20. Every time your wife is worthy of praise and gratitude, say her kind words.
21. Do not reproach your wife. Do not compare her with relatives you admire.

22. Try to give your wife an opportunity to receive education. If she wants to obtain a license in any industry, support her, unless it does not prevent her from carrying out marital duties and domestic affairs. Every time she succeeds, encourage her.

23. Listen to your wife attentively, when she starts talking, because it helps pouring her heart and getting rid of many emotional problems. Avoid charges of lying during of conversation. There are, however, women who like talking too much, gossiping about husband’s families. In such cases it is necessary to deal wisely with them, be calm, warn them of such conversations, and their unintended consequences.
24. Your wife should always feel safe from any trouble, be confident that you will never leave her.
25. Allow your wife feeling that you will always provide her materially, no matter how rich she may be. Never try to seize her inheritance, got from her father. Do not save money on her, even if she is very rich, because she needs a sense you really replace her real father.

26. Your love to your wife should not prevent you from loving your parents or relatives. Each of them should get their share of your love. Love all, not forgetting anybody. This will ensure harmony in family relations.
27. In all spheres of life treat your wife the way you would like her to treat you.

28. Visit her family and relatives, keep good relations with them, full of love and respect.
29. Do not make your wife being jealous to your work that brings you a living. Do not detain at work longer than necessary. Work should not take you too long, especially in the end of week. Do not deprive your wife of joy from sharing family rest at home or somewhere else, she should not miss and be sad.
30. Coming out of the house, ask your wife to smile for you. Coming back, do not go home unexpectedly. Allow her being ready to meet you in the form she wants to appear in front of you, especially if you are returning from a long trip.

لماذ يكذب الرجال ؟!

قد يكون في اتهام النساء للرجال بأنهم كاذبون شيء من الصحة، فقد دلت دراسة أجرتها "فيرجن" على أن رجلاً من بين كل عشرة تتراوح اعمارهم ما بين 18 و40 سنة يكذب بشأن راتبه ويضيف له أرقاماً خيالية، واستنتج الباحثون أن الرجال يكذبون أكثر من النساء، وأن أحد أسباب كذبهم هو الضغوط المعنوية والمادية التي يتعرض لها الرجل في العصر الحديث سواء على المستويين الاجتماعي والوظيفي

إثارة الإعجاب

وتحدث نيل ستراوس مؤلف كتاب "اللعبة" الذي يعد من أكثر الكتب مبيعاً في العالم عن أسباب كذب الرجال، وقال ان أحدها هو الرغبة في اثارة اعجاب الآخرين، اما السبب الآخر فهو اعطاء الطرف الآخر أو المرأة انطباعاً حسناً عنه حتى لا تهجره أو تتخلى عنه اذا كانت زوجته او حبيبته، ولكن الذي لا يعلمه الرجال ان المرأة بطبيعتها تشك في الرجال، وتعتبر الرجل كاذباً حتى تثبت براءته، لذلك غالباً ما تكشف المرأة كذب الرجل بحدسها الذي لا يخيب.

شعور بالضعف

بالطبع فسلوك الكذب عند الرجال ليس فطرياً ولكنه يرجع لتربيته وبيئته وشخصيته، ولكن ستراوس يرى أن كذب الرجل يرجع الى شعوره بالضعف، خصوصا بعد أن خرجت المرأة الى العمل وطالبت بمساواتها بالرجل مما يجعله يشعر بقلق نفسي وضرورة لاثبات ذاته وبأنه اكثر قوة وان وضعه الاجتماعي كرجل مازال متفوقاً.

وما يزيد الصراع لدى الرجل أحياناً ويدفعه الى الكذب هو انه اصبح يواجه نساءً في الحياة أكثر نجاحاً منه على المستويين الاجتماعي والاقتصادي.

وقد تحدثت سوزان كويليام، اختصاصية العلاقات الاجتماعية ومؤلفة كتاب "أسرار لغة الجسد" عن هذا الموضوع أيضاً، وأرجعت سبب كذب الرجال لعدم شعورهم بالأمان وتعويضهم عن ذلك بالتجمل كذباً

الرجل "اللقطة"

 سيثير اعجابها، ولكن حقيقة الأمر تثبت ان المرأة تجذبها صفة الامانة والصدق والقدرة على تحمل المسؤولية في الرجل، فالمرأة لا تبحث عن الرجل الغني كما يعتقد الرجال، لكنها تبحث عن الأمان ولن يعطيها ذلك الا رجل تثق به.

المتفوق

 سبب آخر لكذب الرجل لا علاقة له بالمرأة هذه المرة وهو رغبته في ابراز تفوقه على اقرانه الرجال، فهو يكذب عليهم ليبدو انه الاول والافضل بينهم والاكثر تميزاً.

 

تخلص من عصبيتك اثناء العمل مع هذه النصائح

يواجه العاملون خصوصاً من الشباب، ضغوطا كثيرة خلال العمل وتكون الأعصاب دائما متوترة ومن المعروف أن التوتر العصبي لا يفيد العمل بل يجعل الناس يتخذون قرارات خاطئة.

لذلك على الشباب تجنب التوتر الشديد وفيما يلي بعض الأساليب للتخلص من التوتر.

أولا: تغيير الطبيعة العصبية، إذا شعرت بغضب فيجب أن تضغط على نفسك وتفعل بعض الأعمال الأخرى مثل التنظيف أو لعب الكرة والتجول لتخفيف توتر الأعصاب.

ثانيا: التواضع، يمكنك أن تفعل الأعمال التي تظن أنها صحيحة وتفعلها بهدوء ولا تتنافس مع الآخرين خارج قوتك.

ثالثا: تفعل بعض الأشياء للآخرين، إذا شعرت بالتوتر والضيق حاول أن تفعل بعض الأشياء للآخرين فستجد أن مشاعر التوتر والاضطراب ستتحول إلى قدرة فستشعر بسرور وارتياح.

رابعا: لا تفعل أكثر من شيء في وقت واحد، عليك أن تفعل الأشياء الأكثر الحاحا عندما تكون مشغولا وتترك الأشياء الأخرى مؤقتا.

خامسا: كن كريما مع الآخرين، لا تطلب كثيرا من الآخرين وإذا شعرت باليأس يجب عليك أن تنظر إلى مزايا الآخرين وتساعدهم على ادراك مزاياهم.

سادسا: اعطاء الآخرين فرصة للتنافس، إن التنافس مفيد للجميع واتاحة فرص للآخرين للتنافس ستجعلك تتقدم مع الآخرين سويا.

سابعا: لا تستخف بنفسك، قد يشعر كثير من الناس أن الآخرين يستخفون بهم وفي الحقيقة أن هذا خيال فقط ولا أحد يستخف بك إلا نفسك وقد ينتظر الآخرون أعمالك البارزة. فيجب أن تفعل بعض الأشياء طوعيا ولا تنتظر توجيها من الآخرين.

أكثر 7 اكاذيب مشهورة عن الرجال

الرجال كثيراً ما تلجأ للكذب حتي ترضي النساء ، فهي من وجهة نظرة كذبة بيضاء.و اليك أشهر 7 أكاذيب للرجال
 "بالطبع هذا الثوب يبدو رائعاً عليك."
السبب: تجنب للمشاكل
يستخدم الرجال هذه الكذبة البيضاء القابلة للعفو ليس فقط لتجنب إيذاء مشاعر الزوجة ولكن لتسهيل حياتهما أيضاً، ويليها عبارات مثل ("أعتقد بأن ورق الجدران الذي اشتريته رائع)
("وبأن هيفاء وهبي جميلة ولكن نسبياً، على العموم ليست من النوع الذي يغريني").
يقول الدكتور آرثر كوفاكس، طبيب نفساني من مدينة سانتا مونيكا، كاليفورنيا،"يعتقد الرجال بأن الكذب في هذه الأمور هي الطريق الآمن لتجنب الصدام مع الزوجة".
وهذا لا يعني بأن زوجك لا يهمه ماذا ترتدين أو تشترين ولكن ببساطة هو يترك لك حرية القرار وموافقته تعني أنه يحترم رأيك وهكذا يختار أقصر الطرق لينهي النقاش، ويتفادى الذهاب مرة أخرى للمتجر للتبديل أو الاختيار وهي عادة يكرهها معظم الرجال.
 "اتركيه أنا استطيع إصلاحه."
السبب: حماية كبريائه الرجولي
سواء كان الغرض تصليح البيت أو الشواية أو أسلاك المسجل، بعض الرجال يشعرون أنهم يجب أن يكونوا ملمين بكل المجالات. إذا ترك الرجل زوجته أو رجلاً أخر يصلح العطل فأنه يشعر بالضعف كما أن الرجال على الأغلب سيعتبرونه خارج نادي الرجال.
 "لم أكن أنظر إليها"
السبب: طبيعة الرجل الذي لا يمكن مقاومتها.
مهما كانت مدة زواجكما طويلة، اضمن لك بأن زوجك لا يستطيع أن يتوقف عن الانجذاب إلى النساء الأخريات، بنفس الدرجة التي لا تستطيعين فيها التوقف عن حب الشوكولا.
عندما تمر امرأة جميلة بجانبه، يلاحظ تنورتها وشعرها وصدرها وكل جسمها، حتى الأعمى سوف يتخيلها لأنه رجل. والأفضل أن تشاركي زوجك هذه النظرة، وتضحكي معه.
 "كل شيء على ما يرام"
السبب: لمداواة جروحه في عزلة عنك
الحزن، والكآبة، أو عدم القدرة على التركيز كلها يحاول الرجل أن يخفيها 

 والكآبة، أو عدم القدرة على التركيز كلها يحاول الرجل أن يخفيها لحماية رجولته، وصدقوني يا سيدات بأن الرجال لا يحتاجون إلى العطف والمواساة مثل باقي النساء، بل أن الوصول إلى هذه المرحلة يجعل الرجل يدخل في مزاج كئيب أكثر،إذا أن حزنه وضعفه بات ظاهراً بوضوح تام .تذكري بأن الرجل إذا جرح فأخر شيء يفكر فيه هو القطن، لذلك اتركيه ليخرج من أزمته لوحده، كوني قريبة منه ولكن لا تبكي معه رجاءاً.
 "حاولت الاتصال بك"
السبب: الدفاع عن النفس
يعتقد كل الرجال سراً بأنهم قديسون أو رجال طيبون جداً، على أية حال.
لا يستطيع الرجل أن يفهم لماذا يخيب أمل زوجته به أبداً، فقد تخلى عن حياة العزوبية الرائعة واستسلم للقفص الذهبي، لإرضائها وها هي تصرخ في وجهه إذا نسي إحضار الدواء، أو الاتصال بها أو الاعتذار عن تأخره. لذلك يلجأ إلى الكذبة البيضاء رقم 5 وهي حاولت أن اتصل لأخبرك ولكن لم استطع وتطول قائمة الأعذار.
 "أَنا الأفضل."
السبب: لجعلك مسرورة لأنك تزوجت به
يحب الرجال أن تدرك زوجاتهم دائما بأنهم الأفضل والأقوى والاوسم ، لذلك لا تصدقي بأنه من أخترع الشعار الجديد للشركة، ربما كان في نفس الغرفة ولكن شعوره بأنك اخترته لأنه الأفضل سيجعله يقول دائماً بأنه الأفضل. فحتى الرجال يشعرون بالضغط والغيرة من الرجال
الأكثر نجاحاً ويحبون أن يكون متميزين، على الأقل في نظرك أنت.
لذلك استعدي لسماع قصص عن بطولاته ومغامراته التي كان فيها البطل الوحيد والوحيد فقط.
"أنا لن أكذب عليك."
السبب: العيش بسعادة إلى الأبد
هذه الجملة رومانسية جداً، وغالباً ما يقولها الرجل لأنه يشعر بأن هناك أوقات تحتاج الزوجة فيها جملة من فيلم رومانسي. ولكن هل يمكن أن يكذب؟ هذا يعتمد على شخصيته بشكل أساسي، ويمكن أن يكون ذلك نسبياً حسب حجم الحقيقة التي يريد أن يخفيها عنك.
ولكن هل تصدقينه؟ إذا قالها بصدق اعتقد انه يستحق أن تصدقينه.
عزيزي الرجل هل لديك كذبات اخري تصيفها لنا؟ 

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